Try to constantly have change on your mind. With every decision you make, any thought you have, think about who you are, and who you want to be, and then make your choice.  If you can master this, who you want to be will slowly become who you are.




A Good Man does not waver. When temptation rises a Good Man needs to stand his ground, recall his scripture and defeat Satan.

I believe there are evil works at force in another realm, as well as all around us, that affect us daily. There is a battle of good and evil going on and it affects our lives for better and for worse. We Good Men need to be strong when evil is at our doorstep. Jesus is our example of this. In Matthew 4, he sets Satan straight and sticks his ground as a Good Man.

” Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. After fasting forty days and forty nights, he was hungry. The tempter came to him and said, ” If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread. ” Jesus answered, ” It is written: ‘ People do not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God. ‘ ” 

Then the devil took him to the holy city and had him stand on the highest point of the temple. ” If you are the Son of God, ” he said, ” throw yourself down. For it is written: ‘ ‘He will command his angels concerning you, and they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone. ‘ ” Jesus answered him,  It is also written: ‘ Do not put the Lord your God to the test. ‘ ” 

Again, the devil took him to a very high mountain and showed him all the kingdoms of the world and their splendor. ” All this I will give you, ” he said, ” if you bow down and worship me. ” Jesus said to him,  Away from me, Satan! For it is written: ‘ Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only. ‘ “ Then the devil left him, and angels came and attended him. “

What an example! Let us think of Jesus as we are tempted. Be strong, remember who you are, and what you believe. And make evil back away from your presence. In Jesus name, Amen.



A Good Man is a humble man.

Imitating Christ’s Humility

” Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same attitude of mind Christ Jesus had.

Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a human being, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death–even death on a cross! Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. ” – Philippians 2

Let us try to live in Jesus’ image, as a humble man.



A verse on tongue taming.

” When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt water spring produce fresh water. ”
— James 3:3-12

How can we tame this tongue full of poison, set on fire by hell? As it is written ” No human being can tame the tongue ” but if we are aware of it’s power we can work toward taming it daily, even if we will never fully achieve it. Jesus says in Mark 7:20

What comes out of a person is what defiles them. For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come.

Therefore, when we sin with the tongue, it is because of evil on our hearts. We need to have God on our hearts, and try to flow fresh water from our spring daily, and keep evil at bay. Keep this in mind this week and weekend as you are using your tongue. Don’t let your tongue bring praise and curses. Who likes drinking salt water anyways?


See my Blog ” MURDER. ” for more on using our words for good.


Fathers with sons, it is our duty to pave the way for our boys. They will learn all their habits (good or bad) from you. Your life is a good look into the future of your son’s. My son is two and a half and I already see him copying me. From the way I stand, to what I say and do. It is the cutest thing, but scary too. I already feel that I have to be on my best behaviour and that I need to start showing him a good example. I find myself teaching him things I remember my Dad saying to me, which is awesome. I’m passing down wisdom to him from his Grandfather. I believe my Dad did a great job of being an example of a Great Man for me, which will make it easier for me to do the same. It is our job to teach them to be men, and Good Men too.

Step One: 
Become, or strive to become a Good Man yourself. Your son will watch your behaviour as you walk towards your goal, which can be a perfect teaching opportunity for him. As you learn things, you can teach your son and walk through it with him. If you come into a situation at work that you’re struggling with, use that to teach your son. Tell him what’s going on, and how you’re going to respond to it, and how not to. As you learn to become a Good Man, your actions will rub off on your son in the process.

Step Two:
Never do anything or act a certain way that you wouldn’t do or act like in front of your son. A Good Man is a Good Man 24/7, 365. Don’t be two people. Act as if you are the main character of your own reality show and there is one main feed going straight back to your house, and it is your son’s favourite show. He hasn’t missed an episode, and he’s soaking it all in.

Step Three:
Teach your son how to live. Teach him the way to Good Man-Hood. Show him how to act in tough situations, using your life experience. Use your life to teach him. With every opportunity that arises, show him how to respond. From doing poorly on a test, or dealing with a bully, or a tough situation with a friend. Creating a tight bond with your son, to the point where he will tell you everything will help greatly. We need to work on this from day one. Let your son know he can trust you and tell you anything. Once he is older and in high school, which are character building years,  if he still brings everything to you, you can continue to shape him, more easily than if you don’t know what he’s going through. And if he continues to bring everything to you into man hood, you can continue to shape him as he becomes a father himself.

Step Four:
Teach him to love God. Teach him how to live as a good christian man and how to be a servant. The easiest way show him this is through the church. Lead him by your example. Make church important in your family. Serve in the church as much as you can. Talk about church at home, read the bible together, teach your son to pray. He will get to know and love God through you. The stronger your relationship with God is, the more it will influence your son, and your family.

Remember all this as you do life with your son, and do your best to shape him into a Good Man.



We need to learn to love wholeheartedly. Love everyone, as Jesus loved.

Just as we see ourselves as  the main character of our own lives, everyone else sees themselves as their main character. We need to try to wrap our heads around the fact that what we do, positively or negatively, affects others. For the Good Man, this all boils down to love, the greatest commandment.

” Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. ” — Matthew 22:37-39

We need to love and become love.

” Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. ”
— 1 John 4:8

Everything hinges on this. If we love God, we are called to love our brothers and sisters. We are called to love our enemies, and our neighbors as ourselves. We all love ourselves. We take care of ourselves, feed ourselves, clothe ourselves, we are number one in our movie. We need to realize that guy behind you in line at the grocery store with 5 items, behind your cart full, is number one in his movie. Become love. Let him go ahead of you. Try to understand how you would feel if someone did that for you. You didn’t change his life, but you showed him love, and therefore, you showed him God. We need to start to look for the small things in our daily lives that can show love to others.

Now loving people you just generally don’t like is a little more tough. But if we become love, we must love all people. Unconditionally, no matter how they treat us. We need to understand that every person we come into contact with is a child of God. God loves them. And so we need to love them too.

” If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your Heavenly Father is perfect. ”
–Matthew 5:46-48

Now obviously we will never achieve perfection. We are not capable of it. But we can strive for it. And the key to that is love. If we nail down how to love, everything else will fall into place. Take the Ten Commandments for example. If we love unconditionally, we won’t murder, as that is not loving. We won’t commit adultery, break oaths, have revenge. We will love those that hate us and in that way, be closer to God and on the narrow path to righteousness.

” God is love. Whoever lives in love, lives in God, and God in them. ”
— 1 John 4:16

Live in love. Bring love to the streets, and let God live in you.